Unequal power in relationships generates behavior from the individual or group with less power intended to balance the power. When power in a relationship is out of balance, the person with less power tries to get what he or she needs even at the loss of caring, honor, or investment. When power loss happens, typically people get apathetic or angry and ultimately reject the relationship, organization, or activity.
Continual denial of the dissatisfaction that comes from powerlessness intensifies the situation. On a large scale, rejection has created "movements" as evidenced in the "women's movement" or "disability movement."
To get power in a positive way, use assertiveness, which basically means putting yourself first. Assertiveness starts with knowing want you want, expressing that to another or others in a way that doesn't put others down or negating differences, and the ability to act. Shifting gears to a "me first position" can be hard, but it is move toward creating a personal power base.
Another power tool is negotiation. When you know you want, talk directly to the person with whom you are dealing, express yourself, and get to a position where both people get part of their needs met. If this is done, then the negotiation has been a success. Add conflict management?managing differences that emerge and working through them to the two other power tools and the result is the base of a powerful tool chest.
Other power tools to consider are goal setting, priority establishment, visualization, affirmations, time management, delegation, networking, and self nurturing. To set goals, focus on what is to be strived for and say it out loud or write it down for more energy. Goals should be reevaluated on an ongoing basis and redefined to provide the truest direction.
Establishing priorities makes goals not seem overwhelming and helps focus energy in the best way. Visualization is creating a visual image, which helps activate the goal-seeking process. Affirmations are positive statements made to one's self by oneself, then repeated several times to help dispel negative thoughts and beliefs.
Delegating tasks to the appropriate people is a part of time management?both of which help individuals concentrate on a goal. Networking expands personal power bases and provide a support group of people willing to help with goal achievement. Self nurturing means taking care of one self. "When you give time to yourself, you multiply your energy level and you increase your ability and your willingness to do the things you want and need to do for the other individuals in your life." #864
Moore, L. (1991). Positive uses of power. In Release from powerlessness: A guide for taking charge of your life,(pp. 88-97). Dubuque, IA: Kendall/Hunt Publishing Company.
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